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We are fans of online dating, even though many of our students and clients find online dating a challenge. There are many advantages to dating online for lesbians, as well as some disadvantages. The advantages are:

  • Large pool of available women.
  • Women you are unlikely to meet elsewhere.
  • You can learn a lot about them from reading their profile.
  • If you are willing to do long-distance dating, that increases your pool considerably.

However, there are disadvantages of lesbian online dating:

  • Most dating sites have a lot of fake profiles.
  • Many women don’t pay for their accounts, so they cannot respond to messages.
  • Many women forget that they have accounts.
  • Some women don’t respond to messages (for a variety of reasons, like those above.)
  • You don’t always know that the person is presenting themselves accurately.

We designed Heart + Mind women for a number of reasons. First, our community really wanted a way to meet each other – other lesbians and queer women committed to conscious relationships. Second, we wanted more women to have access to our tools and skills for not only finding the right partner, but also being the right partner. Third, we wanted to mitigate many of the problems that occur with other lesbian online dating sites, and dating sites in general.

So what’s so different about Heart + Mind women?

  1. Each account is paid and verified – no men, and no fake accounts
  2. We have a set of community standards that each member agrees to, which creates a safe, compassionate space to meet other women online.
  3. The profiles are designed with real compatibility in mind – you can learn a lot about the relationship visions of other women.
  4. We have interest groups so that you can have conversations with other lesbians and queer women on topics of interest to you.


One comment:

  1. Profile photo of calmness54

    November 21, 2016 at 6:52 am

    I’m just glad that you two are a gift to the community doing what you are led to do. I appreciate so greatly that you have put together such a safe and fundamental place where womyn can feel comfortable about being online with their laundry aired. From the bottom of my heart Ruth and Michelle, I honor you as my mentors.

    All the best with your many endeavors.

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