If she says she’s not ready, believe her, and step away.
It’s that simple. It doesn’t matter how crushed out you are on her, it doesn’t matter if she’s seems like she’s the perfect fit – she’s not, if she’s not ready. And don’t try the “well, I’ll just hang out and be friends, and wait for her to get ready.” Bad idea. There’s a great quote we like, that we’ve adapted from Evan Marc Katz, “Every second you invest in the wrong woman is a second you’re not finding the right woman.”
We’re not suggesting that you shouldn’t be friends with her. We’re saying that you have to fully and completely accept that she’s not ready, and move on. Date someone else. And be careful. Don’t let your fantasies about her keep you tied into the idea that someday, maybe, you’ll be with her.
And don’t be tempted to try to help her get ready – that’s something that only she can do.