For some women, the butch femme dating thing just isn’t a thing. They don’t think of themselves in either of those categories, or perhaps they don’t like the terms. And that’s fine. But for many women, it’s an important piece of the puzzle when they are trying to find the right relationship. It might be that they think of themselves as butch, and really like to date women who are more on the feminine side of the spectrum. Or the reverse – they are feminine of center, and they prefer dating women who are masculine of center. Or perhaps they actually like dating women who are more like them in gender presentation or identity.

One of the great things about our community is the rich diversity of thinking around gender identity and gender presentation. And it’s all great. The most important thing is knowing yourself. It’s important to know who you are, and what you want.

How we help

We give you more flexibility to identify yourself and what you are looking for based on gender identity and presentation than any dating site out there – even the ones that are focused on serving lesbians. We know how diverse our community is, and we want to reflect that diversity. Not only are there thirteen (thirteen!) options on gender presentation, they are a checkbox list, so you can choose as many as you like. And, the list includes “Not Applicable” and “Other” as well.

We know how diverse our community is, and we want you to find what you are really looking for. If butch femme dating is something you’re looking for, you’ll find it. If you’re looking for something else, you’ll find that, too.

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